Monday, September 26, 2016

How to Stay Positive in Negative Situations

By Sheryl Baumeister, Trigard Human Resources

Are you tired? Boy, I am!  With all the negativity about who to vote into the White House, standing up or taking a knee during the National Anthem, copy and paste if you love Jesus, “Like” and “Share” to win!

It’s exhausting!  By the end of the day, we find ourselves emotionally drained by all of the negativity around us.  All these negative comments and situations can make us feel frustrated, angry or even tempted to take on a negative attitude.  Instead of doing that, let’s try to rise above it by using a few simple tactics.

1. Focus on you 
Regardless of what others do or say, we can control our own attitude.  Ask yourself why are you reacting this way?

2. Reverse your reaction
When someone is acting in a negative way – yelling, pouting, arguing, being passive aggressive, negative body language – try acting the opposite way.  When you choose a more positive reaction, you’ll feel more positive.

3. Don’t take it personally 
More often than not, another’s negativity isn’t about you.  Maybe the person has had a really bad day and is dealing with a lot of stress you are unaware of.  It’s difficult to know what’s going on in someone else’s head.

4. Stay in the moment
When you focus on what is happening now (not what has happened or could happen), it’s more difficult to feel negative.  Don’t let your negative thoughts and feelings take control.

5. Practice gratitude
When dealing with someone who is being negative, remind yourself of the positive experiences you’ve shared and be thankful for those.

If you are dealing with a completely negative person or situation, be grateful for the opportunity you’ve been given to strengthen your own inner positivity.  It’s an opportunity to practice positive thinking.

Staying positive around negative people is always challenging, but making use of these tactics will make even the most negative interaction easier to face.  Regardless of the situation, it’s up to you to choose a positive attitude.

This article originally appeared in Trigard Tuesdays, our weekly electronic newsletter featuring information for the funeral industry. Sign up for your free subscription at

Friday, September 16, 2016

9/11 Memorial

By Donna Darby-Walthall, Trigard Burial Vaults Chief Financial Officer

We recently passed the 15th anniversary of September 11 – the day when terrorists attacked the Twin Towers in New York City and changed thousands of lives forever. I still have a hard time imagining that other human beings could so intentionally take the lives of many people.

Being an owner of Trigard Burial Vaults, where we wholeheartedly believe in and support memorialization, I am glad to know that a place of remembrance has been created. The 9/11 Memorial honors the people who were lost that very dark day. It offers an opportunity to bring people together, in much of the same way we saw the world come together immediately following the attacks. The Memorial Museum is another way to pay tribute to and remember each victim. It includes a tribute full of pictures, recordings and love notes of all victims. (Take a virtual tour of the museum.)

I have read that men and women who work and volunteer at the Memorial have gotten to personally know the victims through the stories of love and support of the remaining family members.

I truly believe we live in the greatest country in the world and we will not be taken down by terrorists. May we always remember the people who just went to work like any other day and how tragically that work day ended for them. God bless them, their families and you.

Another Look Back
Read Linda Darby's reflection on 9/11 as it relates to Have the Talk of a Lifetime.

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Monday, September 12, 2016

Why it's important to make time to give back

By Rich Darby
Trigard Chief Operating Officer

Do you give back? In this fast-paced, dog-eat-dog, try-to-get-ahead-of-the-next-guy world, giving of your time and energy seems impossible, doesn’t it? It is so easy to say, “I can’t because I don’t have time.” If you are this person you may want to rethink your thinking. I have one suggestion for you… MAKE TIME.

You’ll discover that giving your time and talents can be a wonderful stress reliever in your day-to-day whirlwind. There is nothing more satisfying than working for a cause. Whether it’s coaching your child’s sports team, volunteering at church or becoming a Big Brother or Big Sister, giving back will be more satisfying than your paying job. 

Do you wonder why that is? I think I have figured it out. I truly believe the satisfaction comes from the fact that giving back is something we CHOOSE to do. Our job is something we MUST do. Now don’t get me wrong; I love going to work. It energizes me, satisfies me, challenges me and rewards me. But giving back completes me. 

When my time comes and I am nothing but a memory, I want my legacy to be that I made a difference in someone’s life. I don’t want my legacy to be about how many businesses we owned or how many awards I have won. I want my legacy to be that Rich Darby walked this earth and that this was his contribution to the world – the sweat equity involved in giving back. 

Our family has always been taught to give back. It started with my grandparents and parents. It continues with me and my siblings. Now, our children are getting involved in our community and giving back.

We own and operate more than 10 different businesses. Wouldn’t it be easy to say we don’t have time? Well here is the real answer:
  • My oldest sister Karen is co-chair of a local business networking group in Sun City West, AZ.
  • Next, my sister Donna volunteers at Camp Healing Heart, a camp for grieving children.
  • My sister Linda is co-chair of the Have the Talk of a Lifetime campaign, a national cause to help the funeral industry as a whole.
  • I am president of Operation Honor Guard, an organization that raises money and supports honor guards nationwide.
  • My brother Scott is involved in a choir in Phoenix, AZ that travels and brings joy to many lives by his singing talent.
Are you reading this and struggling with the question, “Do I really have time to give back?” Again, I will reiterate that you need to make time. It will be the most rewarding and fulfilling part of your day. Thanks for reading! 

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